Finding true love and genuine happiness in a relationship can make you feel like the luckiest person in the world. At first, everyone’s love stories feel like a fairy tale, so perfect. You never think of anything that can ever take them away. However, reality, unlike any fictional world, has a way of breaking and shattering every single piece of our daydreams.
When you become part of a not-so-typical love story where you and your partner have to endure the strength of distance, it feels unfortunate. Although long-distance relationships can seem normal, there are many barriers one must cross to successfully manage them. There are major and often constant factors that can make this romantic setup not so ideal especially for those who are too young to understand true commitment.
Couples face more challenges that cannot easily be fixed without making sacrifices and relying on tough but necessary life decisions when they have to undergo a long-distance relationship. Many people believe that long-distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get heartbroken.
Nobody says it is going to be easy, but if your partner is worth it, you shouldn’t worry. Long-distance relationships have their own surprises too. We have curated a list of 19 pieces of advice that couples in a long-distance relationship should know about.
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- 1. Communicate your expectations
- 2. Set some ground rules to manage your expectations
- 3. Trust is everything
- 4. Check-in every day
- 5. Be independent
- 6. Don’t let your world revolve around them
- 7. Do things together
- 8. Give each other space
- 9. Spend time with who is around
- 10. Work towards your individual goals
- 11. Be honest with each other
- 12. Know each other’s schedules
- 13. Embrace technology
- 14. Pursue common interests
- 15. Talk about your future together
- 16. Never let temptations ruin what you have.
- 17. Don’t let a moment of anger break their heart
- 18. Video call each other
- 19. Visit each other
1. Communicate your expectations
Before you start your long-distance relationship with your partner, you should talk to them about what your expectations are from the relationship. Have lengthy discussions about what you want from yourself and each other in this relationship while you are apart. Some couples believe that they are in the same place when really they are in different spots, they have just not talked out loud about their differences. Discuss everything!
Some starter questions to think about: Will you be monogamous when apart as well as together? How will you deal with attractions to others? How will you handle loneliness? What about time alone with co-workers of the opposite sex?
2. Set some ground rules to manage your expectations
Both of you need to be clear with what you expect of each other during this long-distance relationship. Set some ground rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise.
3. Trust is everything
It is easy to let your thoughts run away when you are not together. Do not let jealous questions hamper your relationship. You have to learn to trust your partner. Find ways to calm your thinking. Communicate with your partner about what is making you feel this way. Talk about concerns that you may have when you are in a good spot.
4. Check-in every day
Greet each other “good morning” and “good night” every day — this is a must. On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and its happenings, however mundane some of the things may seem.
Be sure to have time to catch up with each other at the end of each day whenever possible. Block out at least 30 minutes at the end of each day to catch up with what is happening in each other’s world. Build on your “love map” as you grow in your understanding of your partner and what he or she is experiencing each day.
5. Be independent
It’s one of the most important skills that a person should learn: you have to have your own choices, your own thoughts, and you must have the courage and strength to live life without relying on other people.
Independence in the context of a romantic bond does not mean that you don’t need your partner to live a happy life. Rather, it teaches us that your relationship and the physical absence of the person you love should not hinder you from living life to the fullest.
6. Don’t let your world revolve around them
The love of your life should not be the center of your universe. You are constantly reminded of this in almost every relationship advice that you encounter because it’s the most important.
Remember that you have your own life to live and your own dreams to fulfill, so don’t let anyone, not even your soulmate hinder you from everything that you can achieve. Try to set personal goals, develop new hobbies, be with other people or even visit new places
7. Do things together
Play an online game together. Watch a documentary on YouTube or Vimeo at the same time. Sing to each other on Skype while one of you plays the guitar. “Take a walk together” outside while video-calling each other. Go online shopping together. Technology has become very advanced for us to stay connected with our long-distance partners all the time.
8. Give each other space
It is unwise to be overly “sticky” and possessive. You two don’t really have to communicate 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going. Many couples think that they need to compensate for the distance by doing more. This is not true. And it might only make things worse. Soon you would get tired of “loving.”
Give them space and time to be with their own thoughts; give them time to live a life outside of your relationship. What is important is that you are there and you will be there whenever it matters the most.
Remember: Less is more.
9. Spend time with who is around
Getting lost within technology, trying to stay connected with your partner is not a good idea. Spend time with people who are physically close to you. Don’t forget everybody else for your partner.
So, why don’t you spend quality time with your family? Go on a fun date with your friends or meet a childhood best friend and have the best time reminiscing the old days?
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10. Work towards your individual goals
Your world should not revolve around one person and no matter how romantic it sounds, focusing on a single aspect like your relationship could hinder you from achieving more productive goals outside of your love life.
Pursue your own interests, pursue what you want to achieve in life.
11. Be honest with each other
Honesty is the key to a long-lasting relationship! Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, apathy, whatsoever. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself.
Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. it’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.
12. Know each other’s schedules
It’s helpful to know when the other person is busy and when they is free so that you can drop a text or make a call at the right time. You wouldn’t want to disturb your partner when he/she is in the middle of class or halfway through a business meeting.
Know the small and big events that are taking place or will take place in each other’s life e.g. college mid-terms and exams, important business trips and meetings, job interviews and etc. This is especially essential when both of you are living in different time zones.
13. Embrace technology
A lot of the glue of a relationship is in the day-to-day minutia, and with technology, you can share that in real-time, instantaneously, with photos, texts, and FaceTime. That’s very different from letters or long-distance phone calls,
Text during the day just to let your partner know that you are thinking about him or her. Skype when you can so that you can see each other. If you are on Facebook, post pictures of times you all share so that you can reminisce and renew your commitment to others in your world.
14. Pursue common interests
Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news and etc. to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same things, you get to have more topics in common to talk about.
This is good to create some shared experiences even though you are living apart.
15. Talk about your future together
The only way that can make everything lighter and easier is to talk about a better and happier future together. Hope is a powerful thing especially during the hardest and most challenging moments of our lives. Promise them that after all the sacrifices and the pain of being apart, you’ll find happiness and love in each other’s arms.
Plan for vacations, holidays, and weekends. Talk about goals for yourselves and, if you are married or engaged, for your future as a couple. (Singles should be careful not to push anyone into a commitment.) Plan for when you will be together in the future.
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16. Never let temptations ruin what you have.
Think about the consequences of your actions. For instance, many couples in a long-distance relationship don’t last long just because of a single yet selfish mistake: giving in to temptations.
Don’t forget that someone is waiting for you. Stay true to the promises you made to each other
17. Don’t let a moment of anger break their heart
Couples fight all the time but in long-distance relationships, arguments can really be more upsetting and can have the potential to escalate into something more serious. In addition, many couples know that during the times when you can’t really control how you feel, you say hurtful words that can break your partner’s heart.
Sometimes, we say those words out of anger but most of the time, we don’t really mean them. They may forgive you but it won’t undo the things that your words have done.
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18. Video call each other
Because looking into each other’s eyes and hearing each other’s voices can make everything feel alright again.
You should also remember that it’s important to share details with your partner instead of just generalizations. For example, don’t just say, “I went to this dinner and had a great time.” Instead, really delve into the details. Talk about who was there, what you talked about, what you ate, and how it made you feel.
19. Visit each other
Visits are the highlight of every long-distance relationship.
After all the waiting and yearning and abstinence, you finally get to meet each other to fulfill all the little things like kissing, holding hands, etc. which are all common to other couples but so very special and extra intimate for people in long-distance relationships.
It will be like fireworks, glitter bombs, confetti, rainbows, and butterflies everywhere.